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WELCOME TO HOLLAND~オランダにようこそ
ダウン症を持って生まれた子どものママのエッセー。
障害を持って生まれた子を育てるってどんな感じか
想像できない人が理解できるようにと書かれたそうです。
以前何かで読んだ記憶があります。
今日友人がリマインドしてくれたのでシェアしちゃいます♪
日本語に翻訳もされていました→http://www.geocities.jp/misakidsjp/holland.html
WELCOME TO HOLLAND
by
Emily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a
disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique
experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like
this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning
a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and
make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The
gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's
all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day
finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later,
the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to
Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I
signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've
dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible,
disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's
just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide
books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a
whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a
different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy.
But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you
look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has
windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and
they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for
the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed
to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to
Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely
things ... about Holland.